The Loss of a Pet
The loss of a pet can be devastating! When you lose someone you love, it’s natural to have feelings of sadness and grief. Most people feel that their pets are members of the family, so it would only be natural to grieve when they die also.
Some people don’t understand your grief, because they think it was “just a dog” or “just a cat” or “just a whatever.” People who don’t have pets cannot understand our love for these animals. They just don’t get it.
We treat our pets like family members. We talk to our pets, and snuggle with them. We bathe them and take them on car rides. The loss of a pet can be life shattering.
If you feel that you need help in dealing with your grief, there is help available. I recommend that you contact the Rainbow Bridge Pet Loss Grief Center. They can offer you the help you may need. They may also be reached at 321-784-1468.
Handling Children That Have Lost a Pet
Often times, the loss of a pet can be the first time a child has to deal with death. They don’t understand. They get upset, and angry, and scared. Just like you. And just like adults, they will handle their grief in their own way. You just have to be honest with them. And don’t let anyone tell them that they’re being silly.
Don’t tell them their pet ran away, because they’ll carry around the hope that he or she will return. Then when they realize that they aren’t coming back, it starts all over. Also, they may be angry with you once they find out the truth. Sometimes it helps if you grieve together. It lets them know that you’re feeling the same way they do, and it’s okay.
I personally don’t think that children should be told that their pet had to be put to sleep because they were sick, and you didn’t want them to suffer. They will not understand that. And they could become fearful that the same thing will happen to them if they get sick. Just tell them that their pet died because he or she was very sick.
What About Other Pets in the House?
If the pet that passed was bonded with another pet, the other pet is also going to go through a grieving process. It is of the utmost importance that you show them lots of extra love during this time. It’s also important to keep to their normal schedule.
If they normally ate side by side, leave the other dish there for a few days. That gives the remaining pet the opportunity to realize that their friend isn’t coming back. Then, just don’t let them see you take the other dish away. He or she may not even notice that it’s gone.
How Soon Should You Get Another Pet?
For starters, it’s important to know that you cannot replace the pet that you lost. You have to give yourself time to grieve. You probably feel as though you need to fill the big hole that was left in your heart, but replacing that pet too soon won’t do it. It wouldn’t be fair to the new pet either, because you just won’t be capable of showing them the amount of love they need.
You’ll know when it’s time. When you can think about the pet that passed and smile, instead of feeling your heart break, then, and only then, should you get another pet. You’ll be happy you waited. Trust me. Also, when the time comes to get that new pet, please adopt. Don’t shop. There are too many unwanted pets in shelters that are absolutely craving the love that you have to give.
Grieving the loss of a pet is normal. Don’t let anyone take that away from you. If you need help, there is help available. Help your children through their grief. And don’t think that you can replace the pet you lost in an effort to fill the void left in your life. It can’t be done. You’ll know when the time is right. And adopt, don’t shop!
Do you have a topic that you’d like me to write about? Please leave me a comment below. As long as it’s about pets, I’ll try to write an entire article about it. And signup for my newsletter! That way, you’ll never miss an article. While you’re at it, hope on over and ‘Like’ my Facebook page.
Until next time…